four

A few days ago, a friend asked me the question “Why get married?” It has made me think a lot about why my life is this way. Why did I want this? Did I seek it out? Did it just kind of happen to me? Not “how” really, but “why”. And truly, there is much about the answer I don’t fully understand.
Today, we’ve been married for four years. And in that time, it’s become unmistakeably clear that we are not married just to not be lonely. We aren’t married because it’s always amazing, super, happy, fun and romantic. Often times, it is real, no-covering-anything-up life, that can be so overwhelming and sharp you feel like the proverbial wind has been forever knocked out of you and left you numb.
But, we ARE married to encourage, challenge and love each other, not just “even” on the days we don’t feel like it, but “especially” on those days. Because that speaks a much more powerful word to one another than doing those things when it feels easy and natural. We are married to somehow try to model to each other how selfless and enduring Jesus was and is with us. And nothing in my life has shown me that like David. That has made these four years invaluable. It gives us something amazing to celebrate.